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Alzheimer’s patients can get fixated on certain thoughts or actions. Many times the thoughts or actions cause no harm either physically or psychologically, so there is no real need to redirect or change the thought and/or behavior. But when the thought or action causes distress or physical harm there needs to be an intervention.
If a thought or behavior is causing anxiety, fear, or anger it is best to redirect at the first sign of those types of emotions. Signs of emotional distress can be seen in facial expressions, heard in tone of voice or words, and change in activity or personality. Excessive fidgeting, pacing, pulling at hair, or clothing, are all signs of distress. It is much harder to intervene as these emotions escalate. Intervention may be as simple as changing the subject to guide the focus to something more pleasant.
Redirect your loved one to something they enjoy or towards pleasant memories in their earlier years.
Engaging the person in a physical task surrounding the conversation typically has a better outcome.
- For instance, if the person traveled, you can begin talking about a specific geographic area they loved and ask them to show you the souvenirs, or get the photo albums out.
Conversational redirection may not be enough, and in that case it is important to guide the person to another physical location with a positive and calm approach.
- Never tell them to stop talking about it, or try to reason with the thoughts they have. This only causes more problems.
- Do not ask yes or no questions, such as would you like to go into the kitchen or would you like to go for a walk. (You will almost definitely get a no response).
- Using language like “it’s time to” go for our walk, or providing choices such as “do you want to eat lunch or go for our walk first?” will initiate a more positive response.
- It is important that you understand the background of the person to be able to quickly divert their attention to a conversation or task that brings them joy.
When your loved one is fixated on behaviors that are dangerous or detrimental to their well being or another or pet, you have to take control of the situation. The best advise I can give as a caregiver is "Don't Panic ... remember in most situations its the disease not the person." In order to find a solution you have to put yourself in the person shoes and think 'Outside the Box'
An Example from Our Experience
My mother was fixated on helping you cook the evening meal ... She often would point out that "I have been cooking the meals for all five of you kids for longer than I care to mention". Each night I nervously watched my mother grab one of the knives from the block on the counter and try to cut something. As the disease progressed she started to hold the knife by the blade rather than the handle. Initially, the use of excuses worked ... “It's OK, remember the doctor said you need to give that wrist a rest until it heals from that break you had.” ... BUT when a behavior puts the person in imminent danger you must stop it immediately.
PLEASE NOTE ... I am not a proponent of lying but sometimes you can make the person believe a person of authority made the decision, and not you.
After numerous moments of panic followed by raised voices we had to find a different solutionIn our case, there was another and better solution that caused less argument and distress.
Thinking 'outside the box" ... I took the block of knives to the workshop ground the blades to squares, then placed the block back on the counter .... when she fixated on helping ... we were able to give my mother a tomato and the cutting board and she would attempt to cut the tomato. We would then just take the squished tomato and tell her to go take a seat while we finish the dinner. BTW ... We purchased new carving knives and placed them in a drawer out of sight.
REMEMBER ... When you are stressed, angry and anxious, your loved one will also be stressed, angry and anxious.
They need you to be calm, soothing, patient and relaxed to feel safe, loved and cared for.
Although I don’t really like the comparison to children, no one would allow a child to run in the street and put their child in harm’s way of being hit by a car. The same goes for a person with dementia. You will have to do what is necessary to remove the imminent danger. The outcome may be difficult but as long as the danger is removed you will have to utilize other approaches to deal with the difficulty at hand.
Any time you attempt to intervene in a negative thought pattern or behavior, be as calm, gentle, and as reassuring as possible.
Keep your side of the conversation as simple as possible with short statements or questions. Keep noise and stimulation to a minimum because noisy, chaotic, anxious environments and people will only add to the problem.
If a repeated thought, action or behavior is not causing the person any emotional or physical harm, don’t worry about it. Caregiving is very difficult, so it is important to let the little things go and work on getting excellent at developing a positive routine, and intervention techniques for the real problems. It takes practice, trial and error to understand what will work and what won't.
Regular medical care is an important part of Alzheimer's treatment. Use these seven tips to make the most of the time you have with your loved one's doctor.
People who have Alzheimer's disease need regular medical care to address a range of health and behavioral issues, some related to Alzheimer's and some not. Either way, if a member of your family has Alzheimer's, you're sure to have lots of questions — and limited time with the doctor. To ensure the most productive medical appointments, consider these seven tips.
Plan appointments for your loved one's best time of day and, if possible, when the doctor's office is least crowded. Bring snacks and water, and an activity your loved one enjoys.
Make a list of issues you'd like to address with the doctor, such as concerns about medication side effects or aggressive behavior. Put your primary three concerns at the top of the list so that you're sure to cover what's most important to you. Also take note of your loved one's medications, even over-the-counter medications and supplements. You can either make a list of everything your loved one takes or bring the labeled containers in a bag. Consider using a pre-prepared form similar to the PDF file (Click Here)
Be ready to answer questions about your loved one's symptoms and behavior. Have you noticed any changes in your loved one's mood? Is your loved one able to eat regular meals? Does your loved one seem to be uncomfortable in any way? Has your loved one shown any aggressive behavior? As the disease progresses, your insight may be the critical factor in determining what's best for your loved one.
Bring a note pad and pen so that you can jot down the main points of the doctor's explanation. You might also record the conversation on your cell phone or another device so that you can listen to it again later. Better yet, bring a friend or another family member and ask him or her to take notes or to stay with your loved one while you take notes. If you don't understand something the doctor tells you, ask for clarification.
Also think about seating arrangement in the doctor's office. If your loved one sits next to the doctor and you sit beyond, the doctor can address questions directly to your loved one — and you can nod your head to confirm or refute your loved one's responses.
Consider the Future
Ask the doctor to discuss what to expect in the next year or two. You might ask about advance directives, long term care or nursing home placement. You might also discuss hospice or palliative care. Knowing what to expect can help you prepare.
Ask for Referrals or Recommendations
If you need help, ask. The doctor can refer you to various community resources, such as meal services, senior centers, respite care and support groups.
Deal Promptly with Conflict
If something annoys you about a particular appointment or if a misunderstanding arises, discuss it with the doctor right away. Work as a team to resolve the problem, rather than rushing to switch doctors. A change could be confusing to your loved one and detrimental to his or her care in the long run.
1. List of Concerns / Questions
2. Medicine List
- Name of Prescriptions (with Generic Name as well)
- Name of any over the counter medicines
- Dosage (how many mg or mg they take)
- Prescribing physician
- Name of Pharmacy and Phone Number
3. Recent History / Vitals
4. Drinks / Snacks
5. Other considerations (if you have to wait extra briefs, wipes, underpads and a change of clothes)
THE CAREGIVER ROLE
What is a Caregiver
The Caregiver Defined
Who Do Caregivers Care For
Accepting the Reality of Dementia
6 Steps to Successful Caregiving
Caregiver's Are Not Alone
Asking For & Getting Help
The Caregiver Code
Rights of a Caregiver
Unmet Needs Of A Caregiver
Caregiver And Work
Feelings And Caregiver Stress
Questions & Answers
STRESS, COPING & FEELINGS
The Caregiver Code
Rights of The Caregiver
Coping With Stress
Feelings And Caregiver Stress
Stages Of Alzheimer's
Helping Children Understand
Protecting Yourself From Burnout
Making Time For Reflection
How is Competency Defined?
Power of Attorney
What is an Advanced Directive?
Do I Really Need a Will or a Trust?
Importance of Communication
Communicating With Someone Who Has Alzheimer's
Your Approach Sets The Tone
Think Before You Speak
Doing Tasks Together
Having Trouble Being Understood
Keeping a Dementia Journal
Making Caregiving Easier - Caregiver Notebook
Things NOT To Do
When It Just Fails
TIPS AND ISSUES
New To Family Caregiving?
Tips For Dealing with Aggression
Places To Turn For Caregiver Supoort
Take Advantage of Community Support
Random Tips From Other Caregivers
Providing Long Distance Care
When To Stop Driving
Dealing With Family Conflict
Tips on Sundowning
Ways to Reduce Sundowning Challenges (part A)
Ways to Reduce Sundowning Challenges (part B)
Helping Children Understand
Pet & Toy Therapy
Getting Someone to Take Medications
Tips For Medical Appointments
Dealing With Resistance
Tips For Day To Day
Intimacy And Sexuality
Visiting A Person With Dementia
Music And Dementia
Tips For Holidays And Gatherings
Art as Home Therapy
RESEARCH & DONATIONS